When I can, I’m joining From Mrs. to Mama in her 52 Weeks of Blogging with a Purpose. I’m enjoying the chance to be candid about my motherhood journey and I hope to hear from you in the comments section at the end of my posts. Today’s topic is how our childhood impacts who we are today. As I thought about my childhood, the one thing that stands out for me is the big family I grew up in.
I come from a long line of big families and homemakers. My great grandmother had 9 living children while my grandmother had 4 and buried one infant. My mom had 7 children, with my twin sister and I being her second and third children. Because she had four children after me, I saw parenting in action. I saw how she managed the kids, how she worried or didn’t worry over the minor issues. She took stomach viruses and school projects in stride. I saw how perfect never happened at our house, because love and fun abounded.
Big Family Lessons
As a child, it was always so affirming to hear that my mom wanted to be around her children and didn’t view us as a hassle.
She also referred to us as “surprise” babies, but not accidents. I guess my parents love surprises!
As I’ve received negative comments with my little family of 3 children, I’ve asked my mom how she responded to them. She said she never really learned snazzy comebacks. She generally just kept her mouth shut and smiled.
My childhood wasn’t perfect–there was a lot of junk there that God has dealt with and still deals with in me because of yucky things like divorce. But I’ve always been grateful for certain aspects about the way we were raised, and I’m especially grateful for all of my brothers and sisters.
I hear so many of my tenderhearted mom friends worrying about their first born baby and how neglected he or she will be when that next sibling is born. I understand that concern, but I never felt neglected or ignored growing up.
Because of the family I grew up in, I know that there’s always more love to go around. And I know that there are valuable life lessons that are most easily learned by having siblings.