I walked through my house one day, overwhelmed with housework. I looked around and realized something.
Every room of the house was almost clean. But because nothing was completely clean, I felt like the whole house was a mess.
That was a few years ago. Lately, I feel the same way.
I still feel like I’m reeling from our out-of-state move, and the fact that we’re still adjusting and getting settled into our new lives. Our routines and stage of life have changed so much, and I’m still trying to figure out just how to keep my new (little) home clean. And then there’s the boxes. And the storage room. And the house plans.
I find myself working on a lot of different things at the same time, and the end result is that nothing gets done. I see progress in some areas of my life, but in others, I’m stumbling or even stepping backwards.
I can work so hard to do a better job with running in the mornings and with balancing homeschooling and homemaking, but then I find myself resorting to stress eating, completely negating the progress I’ve made with exercise. Or I spend a little bit of time cleaning the bathroom or tackling a small cleaning project, but then I get distracted with cooking or homeschooling, and the end result is that the project is left incomplete.
Why? Because I lack focus.
I’m the kind of person who finishes a Bible study with a desire to change everything. All of my flaws and struggles become so clear to me that I feel like everything needs to change.
And it’s completely overwhelming.
I’m also the queen of multitasking, often to my detriment. This is one of those issues my husband and I have talked about for years, and I’m finally seeing his point. Yes honey, I’m saying you’re right–multitasking is not as productive as I think it is.
So this year, instead of choosing a resolution, I’m choosing one word. Focus.
But what in the world am I focusing on?
My relationship with Christ, first and foremost.
I normally work my way through the Bible by reading one or two chapters a day, so that I finish in anywhere between 1 1/2-3 years, at which point I start over again. This year, I’m reading the Bible in a year. I’ve done it before, but only once since having children. I think spending more time in the Word of God will help me to focus on the things in my day that matter most.
I also know that when I’m content and finding joy in God, I feel less stress, which helps me to rest better, eat better, and have more patience with my children. It all overflows into every aspect of my life.
Secondly, I’m systematically looking at my routines and habits to determine what’s working and what’s not working for my family. My goal is to create a new chore system that works for my new home, for the older ages of my kids, and the new routines that we have here. I had great routines at our old home, but so much has changed since then. I need to find the sweet spot again, that balance between a neat home and real life with young children.
I’m also continuing with my goals of losing weight and getting healthier. I recently ran my first half marathon, but I’ve got a long way to go to reach my personal goals with health and weight loss.
And then there’s the every-changing dynamic of children who grow older and require different things of mom.
But it starts with one step at a time. And ultimately, it starts with Christ.
See, it’s really easy to reduce everything to calories and chore charts and apps and routines. Even as Christians, we often make the mistake of thinking it’s all about lists and rules. But the reality is that the same power that saved us to begin with, the power of the Holy Spirit, is the same power that changes us into His image. Little by little, one step at a time.
Join the journey with me in 2015 as we focus. I will tackle various areas each month for us to focus on as a group, including fitness, faith, and various aspects of homemaking and motherhood. As always, I’m not planning on approaching this as an expert or a pro. I’m in process, and God is working on me all the time to make me more like Him. I hope we can be in process together, encouraging one another along in our motherhood journeys.
It begins this month with a book club. Several of us will join together to read The Mission of Motherhood, by Sally Clarkson. (affiliate link)
It’s my goal that we grow as moms together, focusing on cultivating a heart for Christ in ourselves and in our children. If you want to join our book club, just purchase the book and join our Facebook group. Email me at Gabby(at)MamaGab(dot)net and I’ll add you to our Facebook Group. It’s a closed and private group so that we can discuss things openly.
Are you ready? Let’s do this, mamas. Let’s focus.